There is plenty of advice on how, why, and when to offer forgiveness. And there is so much behind the act of forgiveness that doesn’t just include the offense, it can be tough to know which direction to go. Honestly, the only thing I could think of over months of thinking about this, is committing to it. Deciding that once we decide to forgive, that’s it. We have forgiven and nothing may be held for that offense from that day on.

The first time my husband found a gray hair on the top of my head (because I’m not quite five feet tall so eventually someone was going to find the first one and it wasn’t going to be me) I am pretty sure I vehemently denied it. He thought it was hilarious. I thought it was the absolute opposite! I can’t very well look atop his head to see how well his hair follicles are faring through marriage and parenting and the ups and downs of careers and pandemics and such. Right? Right. So let it be, man.